Although it’s fair to say that the majority of blog feeds I read are technical or Church related – there are one or two that aren’t. Amongst the others is Julia Buckley, a writer, who I added a long while ago when she commented on something on my blog. Anyway, yesterday she posted an item highlighting her latest job, writing the monthly Ex-Files column in the Observer, and asking other bloggers to highlight that she is looking for
victims participants to be interviewed for the articles.
The basic concept is that every month the newspaper interviews two people who used to be in a relationship with each other and broke up, about what happened. Since it’s an item in a paper I don’t read, and to some extent the concept of trawling through the debris of an old relationship in a national newspaper seemed maybe a bit odd, yesterday curiosity found me browsing through the previous articles Julia had linked to to see what it was all about.
There is certainly a real mix of people and situations. There are some where you read the articles and get the overwhelming feeling that the relationship was just doomed from the start, others it seems that it was almost bad luck that the relationships floundered. Not surprisingly given the nature of the article there are quite a few where the couple are still close to each other despite what has happened, in several cases even living or working together much to the bemusement of their friends, indeed one where after splitting up the couple have got back together – so it’s not all doom and gloom.
There are others which I’m sure would be quite an eye-opener for the couples involved. Since the two people are interviewed separately there are sometimes quite significant differences in what each believes about what happened and why – there are probably a good few lessons into the importance of communication in all of those.
Anyway, if you are in a position where you and your ex would be willing to discuss your former relationship, Julia I’m sure would love to hear from you. Otherwise if you’re at all curious I can certainly recommend reading some of the previous articles – it really gives you a broad cross-section of the relationships and situations in which people find themselves, and if you’re lucky enough to be in a happy relationship, it certainly leaves you feeling a great sense of appreciation for what you’ve got.